For women who have had an affair
You can’t change what you did, but you can choose who you become next
HEALING after BETRAYAL
A space for women ready to turn the pain of their affair into the beginning of their awakening
Time and time again, I hear women say that years of talking about their affair in therapy feels like going round in circles. They feel terrible about what they did, but at the same time, they discovered a part of themselves during the affair that they're afraid they'll never experience again. I created this space for women just like you, who are ready to move beyond the pain, reconnect with themselves and rediscover aliveness, freedom and desire, without the secrecy, chaos or destruction of an affair.
“I feel like I can breathe for the first time in two years. Something has fundamentally shifted in me.”
I wish more people knew this:
the affair isn’t the first betrayal.
It's often the evidence of a betrayal that's been happening for years, to herself. The affair is an important signal – your soul screaming for more. And it’s certainly got your attention, because right now you can think of little else. You’re stuck in an endless loop of 3am spiralling, the disbelief that you allowed this to happen and the loss of trust in yourself.
You don’t have to keep feeling this way.
About Alex croxford
After my affair, my world was thrown into disarray.
The loss of friendships. The weight of my then husband’s emotions; believing that I was responsible to hold all of what he was feeling. I’d always been the good girl, the high performer, the one with a strong moral compass. How could I do this?
I’ve been where you are. I’ve had years of therapy, and tried everything to heal from the pain. What I’ve learnt - and what I’ve seen in the hundreds of women I’ve worked with - is this: most approaches help you understand your patterns, but understanding your patterns is not the same as seeing them change. My signature approach, The BodyMind Intimacy Method, goes into the body, the nervous system and the parts of you that therapy hasn’t been able to reach… and opens women up to the aliveness, freedom and worthiness they were able to experience in the affair (but this time without the pain and destruction).
how i can support you
Wherever you are in this, there’s a place for you
The Sanctuary
A community space for women in the aftermath of their affair. You do not need to carry this alone.
The
healed heart
A six month structured transformational programme for women who are ready to release guilt, ease shame and rebuild self-trust.
one to one
coaching
Uninterrupted time and my personal care and presence as we go to the root of what caused your affair, and open your heart to the deeper, more authentic connections.
“Never in a million years would I have imagined, even six months ago with how I felt about myself, to where I am now. I would never.”
“After 18 months of therapy I was still stuck. Twelve weeks with Alex showed me why — and for the first time, I stopped hating myself for it.”
there is life and love beyond this.
Here’s what I want for you: to wake up without the shame weighing heavy on your chest. To trust yourself once more. To know you’re not the awful person that you think you are. To open your heart to a quality of love, with yourself and in your relationships, that you didn’t know you were capable of. To feel truly alive.
When you're ready, I'm here.
this space is for you
That feeling in your body right now? That's not nothing. That's you knowing you're ready, in the way that knows this cannot be your life anymore. The version of you who stopped abandoning herself is waiting. She's not far away. She's just never had the right space to come forward.
This is that space.