The
sanctuary
You don’t have to carry this alone.
the sanctuary
A PRIVATE online community for women who’ve had an affair
Somewhere you can talk honestly, feel supported and be around women who actually understand.
You want to make sense of what happened and find a way forward, but some days it feels like you're going round in circles. Perhaps you're still struggling with things you thought you'd have moved past by now, and the hardest part is that you don't feel you can be completely honest with anyone about what you're going through.
I want you to know that you're not the only woman going through this, and you don't have to work through it all on your own.
The Sanctuary is where you begin.
“The aftermath of an affair can be incredibly lonely and isolating, filled with shame, hopelesness, and fear. Being able to share openly within a trusted circle of women, without judgment, has felt like a warm hug during moments when I could not provide it to myself. It has become a place where I feel safe and understood by women who truly know what this experience feels like.”
“I’m deeply thankful for this space, for the women in the group, and for Alex, who creates such a safe and compassionate environment for me to process the pain and start envisioning future for myself”
welcome
the sanctuary
The Sanctuary is a private, ongoing community for women living through the aftermath of their own affair.
Your monthly membership means you don't have to carry this alone anymore. Whether your relationship is over or you're trying to save it, there are women here who understand exactly what you're carrying and who won't flinch at any of it.
You can join today and access support immediately.
the experience
A steady, constant companion in the hardest moments
The Sanctuary is somewhere you can come when you need support, perspective or simply to be reminded that you’re not the only woman going through this.
Inside, you’ll find practical resources you can dip into whenever you need them, alongside guidance from me and a community of women who understand what this experience actually feels like.
You can talk about your affair without fear of judgement, ask the questions you can’t ask anywhere else, or simply listen when you don’t feel ready to talk.
This is a space where all of you is welcome, no matter how messy and vulnerable you feel.
Right now…
Some days you feel like you're finally moving forward, and other days something happens that brings it all back. You might still be thinking about your affair partner, questioning your marriage or struggling with guilt that seems to come out of nowhere. And perhaps you're exhausted from trying to work through it all in your own head.
Inside The Sanctuary
You have somewhere to bring whatever is coming up for you, without worrying that you'll be judged or told you should be over it by now. You can talk honestly, ask questions, receive support or simply listen to other women who understand because they're going through their own version of this too.
After 3 months…
You begin to realise you're not the only woman having these feelings, and that you don't need to have everything figured out before you deserve support. You have somewhere to turn when life feels difficult, and a community of women who understand what you're carrying.
Some days are harder than others, and you don't have to face them alone.
Sometimes it's a message from your affair partner that leaves you feeling completely overwhelmed, a difficult conversation with your husband or simply waking up one morning with feelings you thought you'd already worked through.
And in those moments, it can be incredibly lonely when you don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking to.
That's why The Sanctuary isn't another course you need to complete or another thing to add to your list of everything you should be doing to heal.
It's somewhere you can keep coming back to, whenever you need support, connection or simply a reminder that you're not the only woman going through this.
what’s included
The Sanctuary holds a carefully developed range of resources designed to soothe you in your hardest days and support your healing journey.
Your monthly membership includes:
the softening sessions
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Once a month we go deeper into some of what you’re carrying beneath the surface. The shame, guilt, fear, grief, or whatever feels most alive for you at the time.
These are guided sessions where we slow things down, get out of your head and give you space to actually be with what you’re feeling, with support from me along the way.
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The gathering
Once a month we meet for 90 minutes, you and a small group of women who are carrying their own version of this. For many women, this is the first room they’ve been in since their affair where they can say what’s really going on without worrying about being judged.
I’m there to coach and support you through whatever you’re navigating at the time. You can share, ask questions or just listen. Nothing is recorded.
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Inside you’ll find practices, teachings and guided audios you can come back to whenever you need them.
Some will help when you’re spiralling or overwhelmed. Others will help you explore what you’re feeling, understand yourself more deeply or find a little more calm when everything feels like too much.
They’re there for the moments between calls, when something comes up and you need support there and then.
the tool kit
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The private community is there for the moments when you need to say what’s actually happening to people who understand.
Share what you’re struggling with, ask for support, celebrate the moments that feel like progress, or just read along when you don’t feel like talking. You don’t have to tidy any of it up first.
The sisterhood
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Twice a month I record a private podcast episode exclusively for the women inside The Sanctuary.
You can submit the questions you don’t feel able to ask anywhere else, and I’ll choose one to explore properly, sharing my thoughts and guidance in the way I would if we were sitting together talking about it.
private podcast
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A few times a year I bring in a trusted expert in an area that keeps coming up for the women inside. Money after a relationship breakdown. Grief that feels so big we don't know where to put it. Self-worth. Single motherhood. The bigger questions that surface when your whole life feels like it's been turned upside down.
guest sessions
the sanctuary
£97
£97 per month. Three month minimum. Cancel anytime after that.
+ VAT for UK and EU residents, added automatically at checkout.
Feel supported by women who get it. Have somewhere to turn when things feel hard. Ask the questions you don’t feel able to ask anywhere else.
Two live calls every month
The private library between sessions
The private community for support whenever you need it
The private podcast to ask what you don't dare say out loud to anyone else.
We meet on the second and fourth Thursday of every month, 5pm to 6.30pm UK time.
“thank you Alex for the group, really! Having this space to talk to when there is noone else to talk to has been what I had needed the most at times. It has been incredibly helpful space for me, and I’m so proud for joining and opening up”
Any questions? Let me answer them for you.
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The Sanctuary is an ongoing online community for women living through the aftermath of their own affair. It gives you somewhere you can talk honestly about what’s happening, get support from me and be around other women who understand what you’re going through.
You’ll also have access to live calls, practices, workshops and private podcast episodes to support you between sessions.
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The Sanctuary is for women who’ve had an affair and want support navigating what comes afterwards.
You might be trying to repair your relationship, going through a separation, grieving the affair relationship, or still trying to make sense of everything that’s happened. You don’t need to be at a particular stage. You just need somewhere you can be honest about what you’re going through without being judged.
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If the affair is over but everything else is still raw and unresolved - you belong here.
If you are still in the affair then my podcast is a good place to start. There's a lot there that can support you right now.
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Yes. Completely.
Nothing is ever recorded. No replays, no recordings sitting somewhere, no risk of something being shared outside the space. What happens in the room stays in the room, always.
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No. You never have to speak or turn your camera on. There’s no pressure here. You decide how you show up, every time.
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The minimum is three months.
After that, you stay for as long as it feels right. Some women stay for a few months. Some stay much longer. There's no pressure either way.
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The price shown is before VAT. If you're in the UK or EU, VAT is added automatically when you check out. If you're outside the UK and EU, the price stays as shown.
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Yes. Many women are doing both. The two spaces really support each other and feel very different.
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At every level, you’ll have access to the full programme, resources and community support. If you want to move faster or would like one to one support, there are options that offer more direct time with me to accelerate your journey.
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Experience tells me that in moments like this, there are no quick fixes. You need time, space and support in order to heal, and in order to feel a meaningful benefit, you need to be here for at least three months.
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Yes. I personally host both live calls each month, so you’ll be in direct space with me in real time. If you’d like a more personal experience, I have a limited number of one to one coaching slots available – you can learn more about that here.
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The only reason anyone invests in working with me is because they understand that the cost to their wellbeing of staying stuck where they are is far greater than the cost of joining.
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Unlike The Healed Heart programme, The Sanctuary is open all of he time. If you have read this page thinking ‘she could have been talking to me’, that’s probably your sign to join us. You’ll be so welcome.
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Then The Healed Heart is probably calling you.
If you're at the point where the spirals are less, you are feeling steadier on your feet - but still feel lost and confused how you got here and who you are now - and you're ready to actually change the patterns from the root so this never happens again - that's exactly what The Healed Heart is for.
how to join
support is waiting for you.
You can join The Sanctuary today and access everything immediately.
You’ll have somewhere to turn when things feel hard, women you can talk to who genuinely understand, and support as you find your way through whatever comes next.
You don’t have to carry all of this by yourself.
About Alex croxford
I built this space because it is so deeply needed
When you’ve had an affair, it can feel like there is nowhere you can be completely honest about what you’re going through.
I know that feeling because I’ve lived it too. The shame, the guilt, the confusion, and having so much going on inside you that you don’t know where to put any of it.
I created The Sanctuary because I wanted women to have the space I wish I’d had. Somewhere you can talk openly, be supported and be around other women who understand this experience from the inside. I’ve supported hundreds of women through the aftermath of their affairs, and I know how much it can change things simply having somewhere you don’t have to hide.
I’m here to create that space for you.
this space is for you
Maybe you’re exhausted from carrying all of this in your own head. Maybe you just want somewhere you can say what you’re really thinking and feeling without worrying about what anyone will think of you.
You don’t have to have everything figured out before you join. You can come exactly as you are. There are women inside The Sanctuary who understand.
And we’re here for you.