You betrayed someone you loved.
You’ve apologised, explained yourself in a hundred different ways, and still you feel stuck...lost, confused, unsure of who you are now or how to live with what’s happened.
You wake up each day with that familiar heaviness in your chest, wondering how you move on from the affair, how you come back from what you’ve done, and whether life will ever feel calm again.
This is the part few people talk about.
The constant overthinking. The anxiety about what the future holds. The heartbreak of endings. The fear that this moment has changed who you are and how others may see you.
I’ve been here too.
I know the weight you’re carrying.
You’re in the middle of the storm right now.
The Sanctuary is a place where you don’t have to weather it alone.
The Sanctuary
The Sanctuary is a steady, ongoing space for women in the aftermath of an affair — especially for those who are still living with the fallout day to day.
It’s for the part that comes after the shock has worn off, when life has technically moved on and things look “fine” on the outside, but inside you’re still carrying the weight of what happened.
This is a space shaped around calm, steadiness, and compassion, alongside other women who understand this territory because they’re still in it too.
Inside the membership, you’ll find live calls and gentle, consistent support. Nothing is rushed. Nothing is pushed.
The focus is on creating enough steadiness that what you’re carrying can be felt without overwhelming you.
Over time, this becomes a place where emotions are allowed to move at their own pace.
Where you can stay connected to yourself instead of bracing, numbing, or pushing away what really hurts.
There’s no promise of quick relief here, and no expectation of who you should become on the other side of this.
Just a steady place to stand while things slowly begin to reorganise.
If you’re looking for somewhere you don’t have to hold it all together, The Sanctuary is here.
Enter the SanctuaryYou’re not alone
After an affair, many women try to carry everything on their own - the guilt, the shame, the confusion. You want to talk about it, but you don’t know who feels safe. You want support, but you’re wary of judgement. You want things to ease, but you don’t know how.
You can listen to the podcasts, read the books, sit with the insight, and still feel like no one in your life truly understands what you’re living with.
That’s why The Sanctuary exists.
It’s a place where you don’t have to minimise what you’re carrying, and where your body doesn’t have to stay braced or on edge. A space held alongside women who know this territory because they’re living their own version of it too.
Over time, something begins to settle, not because anything is being fixed, but because you’re no longer holding it alone.
You don’t have to explain yourself here. You don’t have to have clarity. You don’t have to be “further along.”
Just held, as you are, while you find your footing again.
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The Sanctuary Experience
The Sanctuary isn’t a course to get through or something else to keep up with.
There’s nothing to complete, no deadlines, and you can show up exactly as you are.
The structure is simple and steady, designed to support you where life actually is right now, not where you think you should be.
At its core, The Sanctuary is about giving you a place where you don’t have to hold yourself together quite so tightly when things feel heavy or uncertain.
That can look like having somewhere to land when emotions feel too much, rather than having to push them away or becoming overwhelmed by them.
Or like finding moments where the noise in your head eases, and your shoulders can relax, even just briefly.
It can also mean being able to speak honestly, without collapsing defending, or blaming yourself, and beginning to make choices from a calmer, more centred place, rather than from fear or guilt.
Nothing here is about pushing through or fixing yourself.
It’s about creating enough support around you for something to soften in its own time.
What's Included
Twice-monthly live calls with me, held as a place to arrive as you are - no preparation needed, no expectation to share unless you want to.
A private space you can return to in your own time, with monthly reflections, body-based practices, journalling prompts, and meditations to support you through the heavier days.
You’ll also have access to a weekly private podcast, occasional guest speakers, and a small, steady community of women who understand what it’s like to carry this, and who can hold you on the days you don’t feel able to hold yourself.
Over time, inside The Sanctuary, we spend time with themes such as:
- When Letting Go Feels Impossible
- Nourishment Instead of Self-Punishment
- Understanding Your Emotions Without Getting Lost
- Nature, Seasons, and the Winter You’re In
- Boundaries and Communication Post Betrayal
The Softening Sessions
Once a month, we meet for a guided Softening Session shaped around that month’s theme. It’s a steady place to land when things feel loud, fast, or overwhelming, especially when you’ve been living in your head and need somewhere to rest.
These sessions are designed to help you ease out of overthinking and come back into your body gently, without effort or pressure. We move slowly, allowing the nervous system to settle, and the bracing you’ve been carrying to loosen a little.
Through simple, body-based guidance, the noise in the mind begins to quiet, the tightness in the chest can soften, and there’s space to breathe again.
Each session is recorded and saved in your private library, so you can return to it whenever you need that support.
The Gathering
Each month, we meet for The Gathering, a 90-minute space to come together, receive support, and be alongside other women who understand this terrain because they’re living it too.
For many women, this becomes the first place they stop feeling like the worst person in the room.
The structure is simple and held. I guide the space, offer gentle reflections, and respond to what’s present in the room. You’re welcome to speak, to share a little, or to simply listen, there’s no expectation to participate in any particular way.
You won’t be pushed to share, and you won’t be put on the spot.
Each Gathering is recorded and saved in your private library, so you can return to it whenever you need that sense of being held.
The Private Library
Each month, a new bundle arrives in your private library - simple, grounded resources you can reach for in the moments when everything seems to hit you at once.
Inside, you’ll find:
a short teaching
a guided meditation
a body-based practice
a weekly private podcast shaped around your questions
These are there for the mornings you wake up already anxious, or the moments when things feel wobbly and you need something to lean on without adding to the overwhelm.
Over time, returning to these resources creates a sense of familiarity and support. They become something you can come back to when you feel untethered, helping you settle, orient, and stay a little more connected to yourself in the in-between moments.
Nothing here is about doing it perfectly or keeping up. It’s about having something steady to reach for when you need it most.
The Sisterhood
Healing doesn’t only happen in the live calls.
It happens in the moments in between - the spirals, the late-night thoughts, the days when something hurts and you don’t know what to do with it.
The private Telegram group is there for those moments. It’s a place where you can speak honestly, without having to tidy your thoughts or make sense of them first, and where you’re met by women who understand this territory because they’re living it too.
Over time, it begins to feel less isolating.
You hear women describe thoughts or feelings that sound like yours, and the sense of being the only one starts to ease. Things you thought you had to carry alone don’t feel so isolating anymore.
This kind of connection is rare in the aftermath of an affair, a space where nothing about your story is too much, too messy, or too uncomfortable. Where you don’t have to hold it all on your own anymore.
The Sanctuary Private Podcast
Each week, you’ll receive a short private podcast episode (around 15–20 minutes), created exclusively for women inside The Sanctuary.
There’s a private space where you can share what’s coming up for you - a question, a situation, a feeling you can’t get out of your head, or something you don’t know how to talk about anywhere else.
Each week, I choose one of those questions and respond to it in a podcast episode. I speak directly to what’s been shared, staying close to the emotional reality of it, rather than offering advice or trying to fix anything.
These episodes are for the moments you need someone to help you steady, make sense of what’s happening inside you, or feel less alone with it.
All episodes are saved in your private library, so you can listen whenever you need that support.
Guest Sessions & Special Workshops
At certain points throughout the year, I invite in a small number of trusted voices to support areas that can feel especially difficult to navigate on your own.
These sessions are shaped around what’s actually coming up in the group, whether that’s money worries, relationships, self-worth, single motherhood, grief, or making sense of the spiritual questions that often follow an affair.
When something feels relevant, you’ll be told ahead of time so you can join live if you want, or watch the replay later in your own time.
These sessions are there to offer perspective, steadiness, and support, so you don’t have to hold these parts on your own.
Is this space for me?
The Sanctuary is for you if the affair itself is over, even if nothing feels settled yet.
You might still be in your relationship. You might have left for someone else. Or you might be holding a truth you’re not ready to speak yet.
You might be in that in-between place where life has moved on, but you still feel a step behind it.
This space is for the part that comes after the talking, after the explanations, after you’ve gone over it all a hundred times in your head and still wake up with it sitting in your chest.
You’re not in crisis anymore, but you’re not at peace either.
You’re functioning, getting through the days.
And at the same time, something in you is tired of carrying all of this on your own.
If you’re past the explosion but still living with the aftermath…
If you’re tired of managing yourself through it…
If you want somewhere you don’t have to explain, justify, or be “okay”...
The Sanctuary was created for this exact place.
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Still Not Sure?
That makes sense.
Most women who find their way here aren’t certain. They’re not having a clear “yes” moment. They’re usually just tired, and quietly wondering if there’s somewhere they don’t have to keep holding everything together.
You might recognise yourself if:
• You often feel like you’re somehow too much and not enough at the same time
• You’re carrying guilt for something you can’t undo, even though you’ve thought it through a thousand times
• You want support, but the idea of being seen still feels risky
• Your mind keeps looping and you don’t know how to get out of it
You don’t need all of this to be true.
You don’t even need to know what you want yet.
If one of these lands, that’s enough.
This space isn’t for women who feel ready.
It’s for women who are still figuring out how to live with what’s happened, and don’t want to do that part alone.
"...I have done a lot of therapy and personal development work, but after my affair I didn’t feel safe anywhere to be fully seen and let the full truth of my story be known. That changed when I started working with Alex, and it was a huge exhale for my soul. Alex is the most compassionate and skilled space holder I’ve ever worked with. She helps us navigate the most vulnerable and hurt parts of ourselves with love, honesty, and complete non-judgment... There is no one doing this work like Alex — if you’re recovering from an affair, it’s the greatest gift you can give yourself."
~Maya
The truth is… nothing changes unless something changes.
If you don’t have a safe space to process all of this, safely, slowly, and without judgement, then your nervous system will keep looping the same stories.
The shame stays stuck.
The guilt gets deeper in your body.
The overthinking doesn’t stop.
And the longer you wait to be supported… the harder it gets to ask for help.
The Sanctuary is here to interrupt that.
It’s not just a support space, it’s the pattern breaker your body’s been longing for.
Don’t wait until you collapse to give yourself what you need. Let this be the moment you choose a different ending.
IF YOU'RE FEELING THE WEIGHT OF NOW
The next few months will pass, whether anything changes or not.
You can keep getting through the days on your own, holding it together, managing the hard moments, telling yourself you’ll deal with it later.
Or you can let yourself be held somewhere steady, where you don’t have to carry all of this by yourself.
You don’t have to feel ready.
You don’t have to know what comes next.
You just don’t have to keep pretending it’s fine when it isn’t.
Begin Your Return
£277/month | three-month minimum
Your membership includes everything inside The Sanctuary - the monthly gatherings, the Softening Sessions, the private sisterhood, and full access to the member portal.
There’s a three-month minimum because this work isn’t something you dip into when things feel hard and then disappear from again. It takes time for your system to settle, and for trust to build, not only with the space, but with the women inside it, and with yourself.
Three months gives you enough continuity to stop dropping back into survival mode, and enough steadiness to actually feel supported rather than starting over each time.
After your first three months, you’re welcome to stay for as long as it continues to feel supportive for you.
We meet live on the second and fourth Thursday of each month at 8pm GMT.
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F.A.Q.s
I’m working with a therapist – can The Sanctuary help me?
Yes. Many women are doing both.
Therapy can be a place to talk things through, make sense of the past, and understand what happened. The Sanctuary supports you in the day-to-day reality of living with it - the moments when the shame spikes, the thoughts spiral, or your body feels on edge and you don’t know where to put it all.
This isn’t a replacement for therapy, and it’s not trying to do the same thing. It’s a space where you’re supported in how you’re actually feeling now, and where you don’t have to carry that alone.
For many women, having both feels grounding: somewhere to think things through, and somewhere to be held while you live your life in the middle of it.
Do I have to speak or have my camera on?
No. You never have to speak or turn your camera on.
You’re welcome to come exactly as you are - tired, quiet, unsure, or just listening. Many women begin that way.
Over time, some find that letting themselves be seen, even briefly, feels supportive. But that’s something that happens naturally, not something that’s expected or encouraged before you’re ready.
There’s no pressure here. You decide how you show up, every time.
Can I join if I am still in the affair?
Not yet. The Sanctuary is for women who are in the aftermath. When you’re still in the affair, your nervous system is in survival mode, and this kind of work often feels confusing, overwhelming, or destabilising rather than supportive. You’re not doing anything wrong, and you’re not being judged. You simply need a different kind of support at this stage.
Once the affair has ended, emotionally or physically, and you’re ready to begin the healing process, this space will be here to hold you.
How long does The Sanctuary last?
You’ll be with us for a minimum of three months, in order to create the time needed for your nervous system enough time to settle, soften, and actually feel held. No two journeys are the same; you might stay for a little while, or choose to remain in The Sanctuary for longer. It is an ongoing space you can join or leave at any time after the first 3 months.
I am scared of people finding out. Is this totally confidential?
Yes. This is a private and confidential space.
What’s shared inside The Sanctuary - on calls, in the community, or in the Telegram group - stays inside The Sanctuary. Every woman enters with a clear understanding around confidentiality, and the space is intentionally kept contained and protected.
You also get to control how visible you are. You’re welcome to use your initials, keep your camera off, and share only what feels safe for you. There is no expectation to disclose more than you’re ready for.
This is a place where you don’t have to worry about being exposed.
You get to move at your own pace, in your own way.
Will I have access to you?
Yes. I personally host both live calls each month, so you’ll be in direct space with me in real time.
Between calls, you can share questions or what’s coming up for you in the Q&A thread. Each week, I record a private podcast responding to what feels most alive and relevant for the group as a whole.
I won’t be able to respond to every question one-on-one, but nothing disappears into the void here. The themes, the patterns, the things women are carrying, they’re held and spoken to.
You’re not left alone with this between sessions, and you’re not expected to figure it all out by yourself.
What if I'm still obsessed with my affair partner even though it's over?
That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, and it doesn’t disqualify you from being here.
For many women, the attachment doesn’t end when the relationship does. What’s left can feel consuming - the longing, the grief, the unfinished feelings, the questions that won’t go away.
The Sanctuary is a place where that can be met, without shame or pressure to “move on.” It’s a space to begin understanding what you’re still holding, and to let that attachment soften in its own time, rather than trying to force yourself past it.
You don’t have to be over anything to belong here. You just need somewhere you don’t have to carry it alone.
What if I’m not in a relationship anymore?
You’re still welcome here.
The Sanctuary isn’t about fixing or saving a relationship. It’s about being supported as you find your footing again, especially after something that changed you.
Whether you’re single now, between chapters, or still making sense of what you want next, this space is here to help you reconnect with yourself and feel steadier in who you are becoming.
There’s no pressure to know what comes next. This space is here while you find your bearings again.
Will other women judge me?
No. Everyone here carries some version of the same story. There’s no hierarchy of “good” or “bad.” Just women who know what it feels like to be human and hurting and still choosing to heal
Will the calls be recorded?
Yes. Although coming live is recommended if you can, it's not a problem if you can't as all calls, private podcasts and guest speakers will be recorded and can be found on the private portal.
If you’re tired of managing how you feel,
and tired of trying to make sense of this on your own,
this space was made with you in mind.
The Sanctuary is here for the part of you that’s exhausted from holding it all together.
Not just somewhere to talk about what happened,
but somewhere your body can finally drop its guard a little.
Somewhere the self-blame doesn’t have to be worked through or explained.
Somewhere you can gradually begin to feel more like yourself again.
£277/month
Three-month minimum
Healing doesn’t come from thinking harder or trying to get it right.
It comes from having enough safety to let things soften.
From being held in a quiet, judgement-free space by women who understand this territory.
And from remembering, often before you fully believe it, that this moment is not the end of you.
About Alex
Hi, I’m Alex Croxford. I work with women in the aftermath of their own betrayal - the part that comes after the affair is over, when life is carrying on but the emotional weight hasn’t lifted yet.
I know this landscape because I’ve lived it myself. Years ago, I was the woman who cheated, carrying guilt in my body every day and trying to function on the outside while feeling deeply unsettled inside. My marriage ended, some relationships changed, and I lost my sense of who I was for a long time.
What I came to understand, slowly, was that beneath everything was a lifetime of being the strong one who didn’t know how to feel or ask for support. My affair wasn’t about a lack of values or care; it was a breaking point that showed me how disconnected I had become from my body, my needs, and my emotional truth.
Since then, I’ve trained in somatic and relational work and trauma-informed approaches, but more than any qualification, what shapes this work is lived experience. I know what it’s like to sit with shame, panic, grief, and the long, uneven process of rebuilding a sense of self, and that’s where I meet the women I work with.
The Sanctuary is the space I wish I’d had back then - a steady, compassionate place to land, to be honest without being rushed, and to slowly reconnect with yourself in a way that feels safe and sustainable.
I’m here to walk alongside you through this part, with care, clarity, and no expectation that you need to be anywhere other than where you are right now.
