I know the loneliness that comes after the affair. I remember just wanting someone to say,
“Me too. I get it. You’re not the only one.”
It was when I met a friend that did say that, so much changed. I felt so seen, held, and understood, and the shame began to lift at a much faster pace.
Healing alone can only take you so far. There comes a point where what you need isn’t more understanding why with your therapist…
It’s belonging.
A place where you get to speak without explaining.
A place where other women nod along because they know a similar pain.
A place to keep softening layers of shame in both the body and the mind, because other women will accept you just as you are.
The Sanctuary is that place.
Why This Space Exists
After an affair, you do your best to rebuild your life.
You keep moving. You go through the motions. You look like you’re doing “better.”
But there’s a deep loneliness that no one prepares you for.
You still carry the shame, the guilt, the confusion,
and you’re tired of being the only one holding it.
Maybe your friends don’t understand.
Maybe you felt too scared to tell them.
Maybe you finally told someone - a therapist, a friend - and instead of feeling met, you felt judged. Like you were still the problem.
You understand how you got there.
That’s not the pain anymore.
What hurts now is not having somewhere to put it.
Somewhere you can be human without defending or softening yourself for other people’s comfort.
Somewhere you can be met with,
“Yeah. I know. Me too.”
A room to come back to.
Where healing happens in your body, not just your mind.
Where other women don’t need you to explain “why” or “how”, because they’ve walked that road too.
What Lives Inside The Sanctuary
This isn’t a course.
This isn’t a programme with milestones to reach or modules to finish.
There’s no start or end date here.
Think of it as a steady communal fire.
You come and sit when you need warmth.
You stay as long as your body wants to be close.
Inside The Sanctuary, you receive:
✨ Two Softening Sessions each month
These are not classes.
They are live spaces where we drop out of the head and into the body.
We breathe. We slow down. We meet what’s alive - shame, grief, numbness, tenderness - and we let it have space without fixing it.
You might cry. You might just breathe.
You might witness another woman saying the thing you didn’t know you needed to hear.
Healing happens in those moments of recognition with someone else who’s been through it.
All sessions are recorded and held in a private library - only for Sanctuary women.
You can return to them whenever your heart needs reminding: I am not the only one.
🔥 The Gathering - Monthly Community Circle
Once a month, we meet in an open circle on zoom, just to be real together.
You don’t have to get it right in here. Just show up. Let yourself be human. That’s it.
Some women speak. Some listen. Sometimes silence is the medicine.
There is no performance, no “breakthrough sharing,” no pressure.
Just women, together, in truth.
🌱 Telegram Space for Ongoing Witnessing
Healing doesn’t only happen on the call - it happens on Tuesday afternoons when the shame hits unexpectedly, or during the small wins no one else would understand.
The Telegram space is there for those moments, so you don’t have to hold it alone.
You can share what’s moving in you.
Other women can witness you without trying to fix it.
And I step in twice a week to anchor the space and offer reflections.
To keep the space clear and safe for all:
→ Voice notes max 3 minutes
→ Written tags to me max 4 sentences
→ Tag me if you desire a response
This keeps the room gentle, honourable and grounded, never overwhelming or chaotic.
Structure & Exchange
- £222 / month
- Maximum 20 women
- No contract - come for one month or stay for as long as your body needs
This isn’t a membership you “keep up with”
and it’s not a programme you “progress through.”
It’s a space you return to when belonging feels like medicine.
Who This Space Is For
This is for you if:
- You betrayed someone you love and you still feel it in your body.
- You’ve done therapy or inner work, but still feel alone in your process.
- You’re craving a place where you don’t have to hide parts of you anymore.
- You want real connection - not just more journaling or self-reflection.
- You want to be among women who carry similar shame and still choose to return to love.
- You want gentle access to me and a living community, without entering a deep transformation process yet.
You want to stay close to your healing, even when you feel tired of it.
What You Might Be Wondering
Do I have to speak or have my camera on?
In the Softening Sessions, you can come in and just listen or watch. The only space where you will be asked to have your camera on, and be asked share if you feel called to, is in The Gathering.
Can I join if I am still in the affair?
Yes, you can. This is a space to be met exactly where you are, without judgement or shame.
What if I just stay a month?
Then that’s enough. You are free to come and go without guilt.
Is this therapy?
No. It’s softer and much more human. It isn’t about analysing, or digging up the past, it’s about feeling and being witnessed in real time by women who get it..
Will I have access to you?
Yes. I will be hosting every live call and I step into Telegram twice a week. You can tag me (within the boundaries) and I will meet you there.
If you’re honest with yourself…
Maybe you don’t just want to talk about healing anymore.
You want to feel it in your body.
You want to be around women who are actually living this, not just processing it in therapy.
Maybe you want to hear real stories from women a little further ahead -
“If she can find her way home, maybe I can too.”
Maybe you want to speak out loud what you’ve carried in silence,
and not feel like you have to defend it, fix it or apologise for it.
Maybe you’re ready to find women who could actually become friends -
friends who know what it’s like to hold shame and still choose to love themselves anyway.
If that’s what you’re longing for…
This is your space.
£222 / month — come for a month. Stay if it feels like medicine. You can leave whenever your body says it’s time.
