You betrayed someone you loved.
You’ve apologised, explained yourself a hundred different ways, and you still feel stuck, lost, utterly confused, and like you don't know who you are anymore. You wake up every day with that heaviness in your chest thinking, how do I get over my affair partner? How do I come back from what I've done?
No one talks about this part. The endless overthinking, the anxiety surrounding your future, the heartbreak of endings, the fear that this moment has changed who you are and how people see you. I’ve been there too; I know the weight you're carrying.
You’re in the storm right now.
The Sanctuary is where you don't have to weather it alone and you get to start healing for real this time.
Introducing The Sanctuary
The Sanctuary is the first community created especially to support women after their affair - the women who are still in the aftermath of everything that followed. Inside, you’ll find calm, steadiness and compassion, in the company of women who are going through exactly the same thing.
Your monthly membership gives you live calls and gentle support to help you feel a little less overwhelmed by the shame you’re carrying, and to find your footing again one small step at a time. Inside, you’ll have a safe place to process your emotions in a manageable way, so can begin connecting back to the woman you lost beneath it all.
And as you move through the months, as the shame softens and the guilt lifts, you begin to let go of the past, and understand yourself in a way you never could before. You’ll learn what real emotional intimacy feels like. You'll stop abandoning yourself in love. And you'll start laying the foundations for relationships that feel deeply connected, honest and safe… whether with your current partner or the next chapter of your life.
If you’re longing for relief from the intensity inside your head, and a small steady step towards the woman you're becoming, The Sanctuary is where it starts.
Join nowYou’re not alone
After an affair, most women try to hold everything on their own. The guilt, the shame, the confusion. You want to talk about it, but you don't know who is safe to share with. You want support, but you’re afraid of other people's judgement. You want to heal, but you feel stuck.
You can sit with the mindset shifts, the podcasts, the books… but it still feels like no one in your life can understand what you’re living through.
That’s why The Sanctuary exists - a place to hold you, to support a body that has been stuck in fight or flight for months. Where nothing has to be minimised and where you’re surrounded by women who’ve lived their own version of this.
And as you begin to heal inside this level of safety, something incredible happens.
You begin feeling like yourself again.
You start trusting that there is a future for you, even if you can’t see it yet.
You realise you’re not alone, not a monster, not beyond repair.
And little by little, you find your way back to solid ground.
You deserve a community that doesn’t flinch at your truth and doesn’t require you to have it all together - a space where you can put down the guilt you’ve been carrying, be supported through the hardest moments, and begin returning to the woman you’re becoming.
ENTER THE SANCTUARY
The Sanctuary Experience
The Sanctuary isn’t a course to finish or something else to add to your to-do list.
There are no deadlines, no modules to complete, and no pressure.
The structure is simple and steady, created to meet you gently, wherever you are on your journey.
At its core, the work in The Sanctuary helps you build the capacity to
- stay connected to yourself
- tolerate difficult emotions
- settle out of overthinking and come back into your body
- speak your truth without collapsing or attacking
- make choices that are not driven by fear, guilt, or loyalty binds.
What's Included
Twice-monthly live calls with me.
A private portal with themed teachings, body-based practices, journalling prompts, and meditations to support you through the darker moments.
You’ll also receive a weekly private podcast, occasional guest speakers, and access to a community that holds you on the days you feel like you can’t hold yourself.
Over time, inside The Sanctuary, we explore themes such as:
When Part of You Wants to Move On and Part of You Can’t
Moving Through Guilt & Shame
Breaking Free From Painful Thought Loops
Loving Without Self-Abandonment
Letting Go of Your Affair Partner
The Softening Sessions
Once a month, we meet for a guided Softening Session shaped around that month’s theme. It’s a steady space to land when things feel loud, fast or overwhelming, and you need support dropping out of your head and back into yourself.
In each session we move beneath the overthinking and ease you gently into your body again. I guide you through a grounding, body-based practice that helps alleviate the bracing, quiet the mind noise, and ease the weight on your chest.
Most women leave feeling lighter - like the intensity has finally shifted and there’s room to breathe again, and like they’re not drowning in it all anymore.
And over time, these sessions do more than calm your system. They gently interrupt the spirals that keep pulling you under, helping you take real steps toward the woman you’re growing into - the woman who isn’t ruled by guilt anymore.
Every session is recorded and saved in your private library.
The Gathering
Each month, we meet for The Gathering - a 90-minute community circle where you receive real-time support, connection, and coaching alongside women who are walking a similar path. For many women, this becomes the first moment they stop feeling like “the worst person in the room.”
The structure is simple and steady. I guide the conversation, open space for sharing, and offer gentle coaching around whatever you’re moving through. You can speak, share a little, or simply listen. There is no expectation to participate in any particular way.
Every session is recorded and saved in your private library.
The Private Library
Each month, a new bundle arrives in your private library - simple, grounded resources designed to support you in the real moments when everything hits at once.
Inside, you’ll find:
• a short teaching
• a guided meditation
• a body-based practice
• a weekly private podcast based on your questions
These resources are there for the mornings you wake up anxious, and the moments you need something to steady you quickly, without adding to the overwhelm.
And over time, these small, steady practices begin to do something bigger: they rebuild your capacity to feel, to trust yourself, and to meet your life without bracing. They help you come back to yourself in the in-between moments - the place where real change begins.
The Sisterhood
Healing doesn’t only happen in the big calls. It happens in the moments in between - the spirals, the breakthroughs, the days where you suddenly want to share your innermost thoughts
The private Telegram group is here for all of that. It’s a place to be honest, to feel less alone, and to be in the company of women who understand this journey in a way most people never will.
And over time, something shifts… When you hear women speak experiences that sound like yours, shame loosens. You stop feeling like the only one. You realise you belong here.
This is the kind of grounded connection most women in the aftermath never have - a space where nothing about your story makes you “too much” or “too broken.” And finally, you not doing it alone.
The Sanctuary Private Podcast
Every week, you’ll receive a 15–20 minute private podcast episode where I answer one of your questions directly.
You can submit anything that’s alive for you into a dedicated Question Group on Telegram - the fear, the guilt, the relationship wobble, the panic spike, the thing you can’t say out loud anywhere else.
I drop in each week, choose the question that feels the most alive, and record a grounded, honest, nervous-system–safe response just for you and the women inside The Sanctuary.
All episodes are saved in your private library so you can return to them whenever you need support.
Guest Sessions & Special Workshops
At key moments, I’ll bring in trusted coaches, mentors, and healers to give you support in the places that feel hardest to navigate alone - whether that’s money, relationships, self-love, single motherhood, processing grief, or the spiritual meaning behind your affair.
When a topic arises that feels needed for the group, you’ll be notified in advance so you can come live or watch the replay in the Portal.
Every guest is here to help you grow, understand yourself more deeply, and feel less alone as you move through this chapter.
Is this space for me?
The Sanctuary is for you when your affair is over (this is not for the woman still in the affair). But you might still be in your relationship.
You might be out of it. You might be in that horrible in-between place where nothing feels resolved yet.
And if you’ve already done The Healed Heart™ or 1:1 work, The Sanctuary is the space that holds you afterwards - the place where everything you’ve learned can land in your body, where you can integrate the shifts that have taken place, and where you find steadiness as you prepare for what comes next.
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"...I have done a lot of therapy and personal development work, but after my affair I didn’t feel safe anywhere to be fully seen and let the full truth of my story be known. That changed when I started working with Alex, and it was a huge exhale for my soul. Alex is the most compassionate and skilled space holder I’ve ever worked with. She helps us navigate the most vulnerable and hurt parts of ourselves with love, honesty, and complete non-judgment... There is no one doing this work like Alex — if you’re recovering from an affair, it’s the greatest gift you can give yourself."
~Maya
Join The Sanctuary
The Sanctuary is £277/month. Your investment includes everything inside this incredible space - both monthly circles, the private sisterhood, and full access to the member portal.
There’s a three-month minimum, because this work needs time and a commitment to yourself. Your nervous system needs repetition, your heart needs gentleness, and you deserve a space that holds you long enough for something to truly heal. Three months gives you the grounding to actually feel supported instead of dropping in and out of survival mode.
After your first three months, you’re welcome to stay for as long as feels like medicine.
We meet live on the second and fourth Thursday of each month at 8pm GMT, beginning on:
8th January 2026
22nd January 2026
F.A.Q.s
I’m working with a therapist – can The Sanctuary help me?
Yes, and many women find it's powerful to work with both. Therapy can help you unpack the past. The Sanctuary supports you in who you are now - the woman living with what happened, trying to move forward without drowning in shame or guilt.
This space doesn’t just soothe you, it teaches you how to hold yourself through emotional spirals, rewire patterns in your nervous system, and access the insight that often gets missed in talk therapy alone.
You’ll be guided, resourced, and surrounded by women who truly understand, and that combination can be life-changing.
Do I have to speak or have my camera on?
No. You never have to speak or turn your camera on. You’re welcome to come exactly as you are. That said, many women find that allowing themselves to be seen, even a little, becomes part of the healing. But it’s always your choice, and there’s no pressure.
Can I join if I am still in the affair?
Not yet. The Sanctuary is for women who are in the aftermath, not in the active rupture. When you’re still in the affair, your nervous system is in survival mode, and this kind of work often feels confusing, overwhelming, or destabilising rather than supportive. You’re not doing anything wrong, and you’re not being judged. You simply need a different kind of support at this stage.
Once the affair has ended, emotionally or physically, and you’re ready to begin the healing process, this space will be here to hold you.
How long does The Sanctuary last?
You’ll be with us for a minimum of three months, in order to create the time needed for your nervous system enough time to settle, soften, and actually feel held. No two journeys are the same; you might stay for a little while, or choose to remain in The Sanctuary for longer.
I am scared of people finding out. Is this totally confidential?
Yes. The Sanctuary is a private, confidential space. Nothing you share inside the community, on the calls, or in the Telegram group is ever discussed outside of it. Every woman joins under a clear confidentiality agreement, and the portal, sessions, and group chat are all held in a protected environment.
If it helps you feel safer, you’re welcome to use your initials on calls and keep your camera off. You get to choose the level of visibility that feels right for you.
Will I have access to you?
Yes. I personally host both of our live calls every month, so you’ll be held by me directly in real time. Between calls, you can drop questions into the Q&A thread, and I record a private weekly podcast answering what feels most alive and relevant for the group.
While I can’t respond to every question individually, I hold all of them in the space, and I promise, you’ll feel me with you every step of the way
What if I'm still obsessed with my affair partner even though it's over?
It's very normal to feel that way, and it should not stop you joining. In fact this is the safest place for you to begin processing the grief and the attachment to someone who you no longer are with.
What if I’m not in a relationship anymore?
You’re still welcome here. The work isn’t about saving a relationship, it’s about reconnecting with yourself so you stop abandoning the woman you’re becoming.
Will other women judge me?
No. Everyone here carries some version of the same story. There’s no hierarchy of “good” or “bad.” Just women who know what it feels like to be human and hurting and still choosing to heal
Will the calls be recorded?
Yes. Although coming live is recommended if you can, it's not a problem if you can't as all calls, private podcasts and guest speakers will be recorded and can be found on the private portal.
If you’re done trying to manage the uncomfortable feelings...
If you’re tired of trying to figure this out on your own...
If you’re longing for a light in the midst of the dark…
The Sanctuary is where you belong.
Because you don’t just need somewhere to talk about what happened.
You need a place where your body can finally exhale…
where you can soften the self-blame…
where you can begin to feel like yourself again.
£277/month
Three-month minimum
Healing doesn’t come from thinking your way out of the problem.
Healing comes from getting into your body.
From letting yourself be held in a judgement free space by other women who totally get it.
And from remembering there is a version of you on the other side of this.
About Alex
Hi my love,
I’m Alex Croxford, a relational therapeutic coach for women in the aftermath of their own betrayal.
I know this landscape because I’ve lived it myself.
A few years ago, I was the woman who cheated - the woman carrying guilt in her chest every morning, trying to be “fine” while inside falling apart.
My marriage ended.
My friendships shifted.
And I didn't know who I was anymore.
What I discovered underneath it all was a lifetime of being the strong one who never showed how she really felt.
My affair wasn’t a moral failure, it was a breaking point. A sign of how disconnected I’d become from my own truth, my body, and my needs. It forced me onto the deepest healing path of my life.
Since then, I’ve trained in somatic healing, ontological coaching, BodyMind maturation work, and trauma-informed relationship repair.
But more than any qualification, what makes this work real is that I’ve walked through every part of the aftermath myself - the shame, the panic, the rebuilding, the learning to feel again. I don’t judge the women who find me. I understand them, and I help them finally understand themselves
The Sanctuary is the space I needed back then - a steady place to land, to feel safe, to be honest, and to rebuild a life with more love, connectedness and joy.
I’m here to walk this with you, gently and truthfully – and I’m excited to guide you.
