A live 90-minute event for women who’ve had an affair
rising from the ashes
You can take responsibility for your affair without living in its shadow for the rest of your life.
Wednesday 9 December | 5-6:30pm UK time | £47+VAT
You had an affair. It might have been months ago, or years ago, and you still jump every time your phone goes off.
You’re trying so hard to just get on with life, trying to be there for everyone, trying to be the best wife you can. Putting a smile on your face around people who have no idea what’s really going on, and then sneaking off to the toilets at work to cry.
You lie awake replaying it, and you don’t feel you’re allowed to feel anything right now, because this was all your fault and your husband is still in pain.
You’ve had therapy, read all the books and listened to all the podcasts.
But you still feel like a monster, and when anyone’s kind to you, your mind tells you that you don’t deserve it.
You know you can’t carry this for the rest of your life.
You just don’t know how to break free.
“I have spent years in therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts, followed the Instagram accounts - this has been the most real life inner work change I have ever experienced.”
You’re not a monster.
Whatever the world tells you, you’re not an evil person with no morals. You have to take responsibility for what you’ve done, but accountability and punishing yourself aren’t the same thing.
Most of the women I work with are punishing themselves in ways they don’t realise. It looks like:
Apologising for everything, even things that have nothing to do with you
Saying yes to whatever’s asked of you, because you feel you’ve lost the right to say no
Not letting yourself enjoy a nice day, because it feels wrong to feel good
Going quiet in a difficult conversation and accepting whatever’s said, because you’re the one who had the affair
Lying awake going over it again and again, as if enough suffering might finally make it right
It can feel like taking responsibility, but it keeps you small and stuck, and it’s often how you lost yourself in the first place. Accountability is looking honestly at what you did and the hurt it caused, understanding what was going on inside you long before it happened, and choosing differently because of it. You can’t do that while shame has you hiding.
That’s why understanding the affair often isn’t enough. These patterns live deeper, in your body and in the younger parts of you that learned your needs came last. I work below the thinking, at the level of the subconscious, with my BodyMind Intimacy Method™.
And it isn’t the end of your life, even if it feels like it right now.
That’s what Rising From the Ashes is for. It’s a live 90-minute event on Zoom for women who are ready to stop being defined by their affair.
This is for you if
It’s been months, maybe years, and you long to feel free from the weight of the past
You’ve been trying so hard to be the perfect wife that you feel empty and don’t know where to go from here
You want to feel hope again, and to know there’s a way through instead of going round in circles
You want to take responsibility for what happened without punishing yourself for the rest of your life
You’re ready to work with your body and the deeper parts of you, because talking it through hasn’t been enough
This is noT for you if
You’re still in the affair
The affair has only just been revealed and you’re in the direct aftermath
You want to be “fixed” in one 90-minute session
You aren’t willing to take accountability for your choices
You’re in crisis. If you’re struggling to keep yourself safe, please call Samaritans free on 116 123, any time (in the US, call or text 988), or contact your local emergency services.
What happens in the 90 minutes
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Where affairs really come from
Without blaming your husband, we’ll look at how being the good girl, or the wife who holds everything together, can lead to an affair, and why punishing yourself now keeps that same pattern running.
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Put some of it down
A guided practice from my BodyMind Intimacy Method™ to help you release some of what you’ve been carrying, and a simple way to come back to it whenever the shame floods in.
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MEET THE VERSION OF YOU WHO KNOWS PEACE IS POSSIBLE
A guided practice to meet the woman you’re becoming, the one who already knows there’s a way through, so you can feel hope again.
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YOU DON’T NEED TO TURN YOUR CAMERA ON
You don’t need to share your story or say anything in the chat. If you’d rather this didn’t land in your usual inbox, you’re welcome to book with a separate email address.
What you’ll leave with
A clear sense of the difference between taking responsibility and punishing yourself, and which one you’ve been doing
The one way you keep yourself trapped in shame, so you can catch it when it starts
A simple practice you can come back to whenever the shame floods in
The feeling, in your body, of the woman you could become on the other side of this
Hope that there’s a different future for you, whether or not that’s with your husband
Ninety minutes won’t heal everything, and it isn’t meant to, but it is where things start to change.
Rising From the Ashes is your first step towards feeling differently. If you want to go deeper, that’s what The Healed Heart is for: six months of live support to make changes that last. I’ll tell you more about it at the end of our time together.
Your host
I know this place, because I’ve been there
I’m Alex, and I work with women who’ve had an affair.
I was the one who cheated. I carried the shame, and for a long time I couldn’t see past what I’d done and the pain it caused. What I couldn’t see then was how numb I’d become.
From the outside, life looked perfect: almost 20 years working in the television industry, people around me who loved me. But on the inside, my heart had been closed for a very long time, and I’d stopped noticing what I felt or what I wanted.
I’ll always regret the pain my affair caused yet I’m also grateful for what it made me face. I met my shadow, did parts work, tantric work, regression work, energy healing and somatic work. And I truly discovered the root of infidelity.
I quit my career and I retrained in VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching and the BodyMind Maturation Method™, and everything I learned became the foundation of my BodyMind Intimacy Method™.
Since then, I’ve worked with hundreds of women in the aftermath of their affair, and I’ve shared my story with millions, in The Telegraph, The Independent, Grazia and on LBC among others.
I blew up my life at 37, and at 43, I have totally forgiven myself. I have opened my heart fully and am in a new relationship experiencing the deepest love of my life as well as a deeper connection with sister and my friends.
I’d love you to find out what’s possible for you on the other side.
“You gave me my life back. That’s it. You gave me my life”
“Never in a million years would I have imagined, even six months ago with how I felt about myself, to where I am now. I would never.”
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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No. It’s live and it won’t be recorded, so you can be fully present and your privacy is protected.
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Only if you want them to. Your camera can stay off the whole time, and you can change the name other people see on Zoom.
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No. It’s a guided coaching experience: I’ll teach, and I’ll guide you through two body-based practices. It isn’t therapy or crisis support.
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Places can’t be moved or refunded once you’ve booked, so please book a date you know you can make.
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Yes. An emotional affair can carry just as much shame as a physical one, and it often comes from the same place.
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Yes. This is about understanding yourself and what happened inside you. You don’t need to have told anyone to come.
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Yes. Whether you’re together, apart or still deciding, this is about you.
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No, this session is for the woman who is no longer involved in the affair.
Feeling scared? That makes complete sense.
It’s normal to feel afraid of being in a room where you’re admitting the hardest thing you’ve ever done, the thing you’re terrified to say out loud. Remember, you don’t have to say anything. You just have to show up, for you.
And staying where you are is already costing you so much.
When an affair blows up your life, it’s like a fire. It burns fast and hard, and your marriage will never be the same. You will never be the same. That doesn’t have to mean worse. It can be where you start to rise.
Love,
Alex x
Rising From The Ashes
Wednesday 9 December 2026
5pm UK time | £47 + VAT | 90mins
This is a live, unrecorded coaching experience, not therapy or crisis support. Sharing is optional. You’re welcome to pause, move, open your eyes, skip an exercise or stop at any time. Please respect other participants’ privacy, although confidentiality cannot be guaranteed in a group setting.
Bookings are non-refundable and non-transferable, subject to applicable consumer rights.