The Healed Heart™
Heal the Shame. Break the Cycle. Rebuild Self-trust.
You had an affair. And ever since, something inside you has changed.
It's not just your relationship that feels different. It's you. Because somewhere in the middle of it all… something in you came alive.
You question your character now. Your worth. Whether you're even a good person anymore. You replay the moments over and over - every conversation, every decision, every point where you could have chosen differently.
Part of you is trying to compensate. To be better, kinder, less demanding. You take up less space, hold it together, wake up every morning judging yourself before anyone else gets the chance.
And without even realising it, the shame stops being about what you did… and starts becoming who you think you are.
That's the real wound.
But here's what nobody has told you yet.
An affair is not just a mistake. For many women it's an awakening. A moment the soul cries out for more. Life tapping you on the shoulder saying - it's time to wake up now. Time to stop living for everyone else and start living in alignment with who you actually are and what you actually came here for.
The pain is real. The devastation is real. And underneath all of it - something in you was reaching for a life that was truly yours.
That doesn't excuse it. But it does mean something. And when you finally understand what it means, everything changes.
You might recognise yourself in this…
You've done the therapy. You understand your patterns. You can explain exactly why it happened - the disconnection, the loneliness, the part of you that was desperate to feel something.
And yet here you are. Still waking up with it on your chest. Still not free.
Maybe you can't stop replaying it. Still going over every decision, every moment, every point where you could have chosen differently.
Maybe part of you misses the version of yourself that felt alive in the affair, and that scares you more than anything.
Maybe you've been trying so hard to be better, kinder, less demanding. Taking up less space. Proving you're not the person who did that.
And underneath all of it - you're exhausted from punishing yourself. And you don't know how to stop.
You don't just want to understand what happened.
You want to feel different inside your own skin.
This is exactly the moment The Healed Heart was created for.
This isn't crisis support. It isn't marriage therapy. And it isn't about excusing what happened or letting yourself off the hook.
It's a 6-month guided process for the woman who is done living inside the shame, and ready to heal the pattern that led her there.
You may already understand what went wrong. You may know your patterns, your wounds, your why, and yet you still feel stuck.
Because the shame isn't in your thoughts. It's in your body. In the part of you that learned - long before any of this - that you were not enough. That love had to be earned through your achievements. That the only way to be loved was to put everyone else first.
That's the belief that led you here. And that's what this work goes to the root of.
Not just understanding it - actually healing it.
When we meet that part of you - in your body, not just your mind - something shifts that no amount of thinking or therapy has been able to touch. The shame softens. The self-punishment loosens its grip. And the aliveness you once went looking for outside yourself begins to return - this time without secrecy, without chaos, without self-betrayal.
There’s a version of you on the other side of this.
She's not a fantasy. She's what becomes possible when you stop trying to think your way out of something that lives in your body.
She wakes up without that weight on her chest.
She knows exactly what kind of love she wants, and she would never go back to what she once accepted.
She can sit in a difficult conversation without her nervous system shutting her down. She can feel something hard without it destroying her.
She stopped wearing the scarlet letter. She understands why she got here, really understands it, and that understanding finally lives in her body, not just her head.
She trusts herself again. She loves herself more. And the aliveness she once went looking for outside herself? It was inside her all along.
One of the women who completed The Healed Heart said it best:
"I honestly forgot we were even in the group because of affairs. I was just on a healing journey. I literally forgot. What do you mean we had affairs? Oh right. We did."
That's what's possible here.
This is for you if…
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You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You understand your patterns - and you're still stuck.
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You wake up and it's the first thing you feel. You've apologised a thousand times and it still sits in your chest.
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You've been the good wife, the strong one, the woman who needs nothing. You've been so busy holding everyone else together that you stopped knowing what you actually feel, what you actually want, who you actually are.
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Part of you misses the version of yourself that felt alive, and that scares you.
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Part of you secretly believes you don't deserve to feel better - that this is your punishment and you should just carry it.
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You're exhausted from punishing yourself. And somewhere underneath all of it, you know there's more to this story than what you've been telling yourself.
- You're ready to find out what that is.
The Healed Heart™ Framework
Over 6 months, we move through a structured healing arc - designed to regulate your nervous system, meet the parts of you that have been running the show, and rebuild self-trust in a way that actually lasts.
Month 1: Safety to Begin
We stabilise your nervous system and build trust inside the group. You'll learn how to feel your emotions without collapsing into shame or self-attack. This is where your body begins to feel safe enough to tell the truth about what really happened.
Month 2: The Shattering
We trace the origin of your self-abandonment - the moments you learned that love required shrinking, pleasing, or staying silent. You'll begin to see how those early patterns shaped the choice you made, and why it wasn't random or reckless, but deeply patterned.
Month 3: The Mask
We identify the roles you've been living inside - the good girl, the high achiever, the exhausted giver - the woman who needs nothing and asks for even less. You'll see how those identities protected you, and how they're now keeping you stuck.
Month 4: The Repetition
We look at the relational patterns you keep recreating - where you over-give, over-function, or disappear. This is where we meet the part of you that still believes love requires self-sacrifice, and teach her that intimacy doesn't have to cost you yourself.
Month 5: The Reveal
You'll meet the version of yourself who made the choice you still carry. Not to make excuses - but to finally understand what she was reaching for. This is where the harsh inner voice begins to soften. Where compassion becomes something you actually feel rather than something you tell yourself you should feel.
Month 6: The Reclamation
By this point something feels different. You're no longer trying to prove you're a good person. You trust yourself again. You speak more honestly. You hold your boundaries. And the aliveness you once went looking for outside yourself begins to return - this time without secrecy, without chaos, without self-betrayal.
About your mentor
Hello, I'm Alex. Seven years ago, I was a TV executive with the husband, the four-bedroom house in East London, and a life that looked perfect on paper.
It wasn't.
I had been abandoning myself for years without realising it. Silencing my needs. Wearing the mask of the woman who had it all together. And when everything broke open, the shame nearly drowned me. I questioned my character, my worth, whether I even deserved to be loved.
What I eventually came to understand - slowly, through years of doing this work on myself - is that the affair wasn't about a lack of love or values. It was a breaking point. The moment that years of self-abandonment finally spilled out sideways.
I had been the strong one, the achiever, the woman who needed nothing. Beneath all of it was a belief I didn't even know I was carrying: that I was bad at my core, and had to earn love by abandoning myself.
That's the belief I healed. And that's the belief I now help other women heal too.
I don't live in shame about what happened anymore. Not because it didn't matter - it did - but because I healed it at the root. And that changed everything about how I relate, love, and live.
I know how dark the shame can feel. I know how isolating it is. And I know what it actually takes to move through it - not from theory, but from the inside.
That's the work.
What’s inside The Healed Heart
By the time you get here, something in you already knows this is what you need. This is what it looks like in practice.
This isn't a course. There's no curriculum to consume on your own time. This is a live, intimate, high-touch experience designed to support real transformation over six months.
- 3 live calls per month Each month includes two intimate group coaching sessions going deep into the emotional and relational roots of what led you here, plus one guided somatic session to help your body release the shame and tension it's been holding. We also build in a dedicated integration week - because real change happens in the space between the sessions, not just inside them.
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An intimate, confidential circle - maximum 12 women This is a small, private group. You will not disappear into the background. Every woman is seen, known, and supported. Nothing is recorded. What's shared in the room stays in the room - always.
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Structured weekly integration practices Embodiment exercises, guided reflections, and relational tools to help you apply the work in your actual life - not just understand it intellectually.
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VIP option - 6 private 1:1 sessions For women who want personalised support alongside the group experience. Space to bring what feels too tender or too specific for the group and work through it one to one.
After 6 months, you’ll…
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Know - really know - why you got here. And it won't be the story you've been telling yourself.
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Wake up without that heaviness on your chest.
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Trust yourself again. What you feel. What you want. What you know is true.
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Be able to have the hard conversations without your nervous system shutting you down.
- Stop abandoning yourself in the ways you've been abandoning yourself your whole life - in love, in work, in who you allow yourself to be.
- Feel the aliveness that you once went looking for outside yourself. This time without the chaos, the secrecy, the self-betrayal.
- "I love myself more. I can clearly see what I deserve now, and I would never go back to what I once accepted." ~ Stefanie, The Healed Heart
The Healed Heart™ Call Schedule
We begin on Tuesday 28th April 2026 at 4:00 PM BST (subject to change).
Each month includes three live 90-minute sessions and one dedicated integration week.
This is a live, intimate experience.
Your full presence is expected. This isn’t a programme to dip in and out of because the depth of this work depends on consistency - when each woman shows up, trust builds, nervous systems settle, and real change becomes possible.
Time Zones:
United Kingdom: Tuesday at 4:00 PM (subject to change)
Central Europe (CEST): Tuesday at 5:00 PM
USA East Coast (EDT): Tuesday at 11:00 AM
USA West Coast (PDT): Tuesday at 8:00 AM
Australia (AEST): Wednesday at 1:00 AM
(Please double-check your time zone as daylight saving shifts.)
This is a live group limited to 12 women.
When you say yes, you’re not only investing financially — you’re committing to showing up for yourself, fully.
Please note: times are adjusted for current Daylight Saving Time in relevant regions and from 25th October 2026, the UK will move from BST to GMT. Please click here to check the time in your time zone
You might still be wondering if this is really for you.
That makes sense.
Most women who arrive here don't feel ready. They wonder if their situation is too complicated. If what they did is too bad. If they've left it too late. If they even deserve to feel better.
And then there's the part that's been running the show for years - the part that says you should just keep punishing yourself. That this is what you deserve. That wanting to heal is somehow letting yourself off the hook.
It isn't.
Healing this doesn't mean what happened didn't matter. It means you're finally ready to understand it at a level that actually changes something - not just in your head, but in your body, in your relationships, in how you live.
One woman came into The Healed Heart as a therapist herself. She'd done years of individual therapy. She understood her patterns intellectually better than most. And still:
"Never in a million years would I have imagined, even six months ago with how I felt about myself, to where I am now. I would never."
You don't have to feel ready.
You just have to be ready for this not to be your life anymore.
Choose Your Level of Support
The Healed Heart - Standard
£3,497
Pay in Full or
£347 per month x 12 months
For the woman who is done living in self-punishment and ready to do the deepest work of her life.
- 3 live group sessions per month - 90 minutes each
- Intimate, confidential circle - maximum 12 women
- Monthly somatic healing sessions
- Weekly integration practices to deepen the work between sessions
- A structured six-month path out of self-abandonment and into self-trust
- Access to The Sanctuary portal - practices, private podcasts and extra live calls
The Healed Heart - VIP
£4,797
Pay in Full or
£479 per month x 12 months
For the woman who wants personalised support alongside the group experience.
- Everything in the Standard programme
- 6 x 90-minute private 1:1 sessions with Alex across the six months
- Dedicated space for anything too personal or complex for the group
- Individual guidance navigating sexuality, relationship decisions or complex emotional dynamics
- Support as you navigate staying, leaving, or redefining your relationship
FAQs
Q: What if I’m still in the affair (or confused about what I want)?
A: The Healed Heart is for women who are no longer actively in the affair and are ready to look at what happened honestly. If you're still in it, this isn't the right moment but when you're ready, this space will be here.
Q: Do I have to attend every call live?
A: Yes. This is a small, intimate group and your presence matters - not just for you but for every woman in the room. If you can't commit to showing up consistently, it's probably not the right time.
Q: Will the calls be recorded?
A: Nothing is recorded. Ever. What's shared in the space stays in the space. That's not a policy - it's the foundation that makes this work possible.
Q: What if I’m scared to share my story?
A: Many women arrive feeling exactly that way. You'll never be pushed to share anything you're not ready for. But what most women find is that being in a room with women who truly understand - without explanation, without judgment - makes it easier than they ever imagined.
Q: What if I’ve already done therapy or coaching and I still feel stuck?
A: That's exactly who this is for. Understanding your patterns is not the same as feeling them shift. This work goes into the body, into the nervous system, into the parts of you that therapy hasn't been able to reach. It's not instead of therapy - it goes deeper.
Q: Can I join anonymously or under a different name?
A: No.
Part of this work is reclaiming your truth and that starts with showing up as yourself. That said, your privacy is respected and everything shared in the group is confidential.
Q: What if I can’t afford the full payment upfront?
A: Payment plans are available. You can spread the investment over 12 months. If you want to talk it through before booking a discovery call, reach out directly.
Q: What if what I did feels unforgivable?
A: You're not alone in that feeling. This space isn't about pretending it didn't matter. It's about finally understanding what led you there and healing the rupture underneath it. You are not beyond repair. Not even close.
Q: When does Healed Heart start?
A: We begin Tuesday 28th April 2026. The journey runs for six months. You'll receive the full schedule once you enrol.
“I tell everybody who knows that I'm in this program that it's the best program I've ever done. You're the best healer I have ever worked with."
~Maya
“I came in thinking I was going to wear the scarlet letter. Walk around with cheater on my forehead. And now I'm able to be a little kinder to myself about where I was at when I had the affair."
~ Juliann
"Before The Healed Heart, I felt completely stuck. I could see my patterns logically, but I couldn’t shift them. My shame came out as defensiveness, and it created an unsafe space in my marriage. I knew it was happening, and I couldn’t stop it.
Now I can be present in conversations without going numb or getting activated. I’ve learned what grounded and peaceful feels like in my body, so I can tell when I’m not there."
~Rachel
"This work has helped me trust that I can hold myself, that I can ride the waves of life. I’ve also regained my confidence. I love myself more. I can clearly see what I deserve now, and I would never go back to what I once accepted.
And the community has been everything. Being able to share the quirkiest, messiest truths and still be seen and held has been an integral part of my healing. Honestly, I sometimes forget what even started me on this journey, but I trust, with certainty, that this is exactly where I’m meant to be."
~ Stefanie
You already know if this is for you..
You've read this far for a reason.
That thing sitting in your chest right now - that's not nothing. That's you knowing you're ready. Not ready in the way that feels comfortable and certain. Ready in the way that knows this cannot be your life anymore.
The version of you who stopped abandoning herself is waiting. She's not far away. She's just never had the right space to come forward.
This is that space.
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