My Story

Almost eight years ago, on a warm spring day, I married the man I thought I’d spend forever with.

It was the kind of wedding you see in movies—a DJ, a nine-piece band, a silent disco. I wore the big white dress, gave a speech, and danced until the birds started singing.

Back then, I had it all. Or at least, I thought I did.

The thriving career as a TV Executive

The husband

The London dream - Gucci handbags, Botox, and a house with a side return extension

I was the definition of a “boss girl.” Fiercely independent, always in control, and completely disconnected from myself.

A few months after the wedding

 

I was ready to trade the party lifestyle for motherhood. But when I discovered I had fertility issues, my entire world began to unravel.

Trying to conceive became an obsession. I tracked my cycle religiously, peed on ovulation sticks, counted down to pregnancy tests, and prayed my period wouldn’t come. It was the first time in my life that working harder didn’t guarantee success. And the feeling of losing control was unbearable.

I had no idea how to process what was happening. I hated crying, avoided my emotions, and instead of facing the grief—I ran.

I drank more. Partied harder. Obsessed over the gym.

Controlled my food intake. Numbed myself in every way I could.

And then, the unthinkable happened.

I betrayed my husband.

I loved him. So how could I do this?

The guilt was suffocating. The shame, unbearable. I spent nights curled up on the bathroom floor, silently battling anxiety so he wouldn’t know anything was wrong.

When I finally told him, our world shattered. We tried everything, weekly couples therapy, our own therapists, coaching, but after a year of fighting for our marriage, we had to face the truth: it was over.

At the time, I thought my life had ended. But now, I see it was the beginning of something far greater.

For years, I thought the problem was him.

His emotional unavailability. His distance. His inability to love me the way I needed.

But the truth? He was mirroring back to me the exact walls I had built around love.

I was rigid. Perfectionistic.

Terrified of vulnerability. Craving external validation.

Avoiding conflict at all costs.

And I had betrayed myself years before I betrayed him.

My ex doesn’t blame me for the end of our marriage.

And after years of doing the inner work, I’ve finally forgiven myself too.

Because now I see the truth: When we are disconnected from ourselves, we look outside of ourselves to feel seen, heard and alive.

We are only every doing the best with the knowledge we had at the time, acting out from a place of pain to soothe a younger version of us, frozen in time - desperately seeking love and connection.

I didn’t even know I carried so much unhealed pain, I thought I had a perfect childhood, escaped trauma. But I discovered we all carry pain from the past. A lot of it ours, a lot of it generational, and this was the wake up call I needed to heal it.

Hurt people hurt people.

But healed people? They love differently!

And the moment I stopped running, from my wounds, from my fears, from my own body, everything changed.

I learned to soften.
To trust.
To let myself be held by a man.
To face difficult conversations instead of avoiding them.
To feel my emotions fully without drowning in them.

And because of that, the love I experience now with my partner Adam is beyond anything I ever imagined. The depth, the connection, the intimacy, it’s everything I once thought I wasn’t capable of.

If you’re here, it’s because a part of you knows there’s more waiting for you.

More love.
More self-trust.
More freedom.

You’re ready to break free from the old patterns keeping you stuck. To open your heart. To create deeper, more meaningful relationships. To finally let go of the guilt, shame, and overthinking that have been running the show for far too long.

And I can help you do that.

In just one session, I can help you uncover the root of what’s holding you back—and begin to heal it from the inside out.

I’ve walked this path. And now, I’m ready to walk it with you.

Are you ready?

Book Your FREE 45-Minute Discovery Call

For the woman who’s betrayed love, and is ready to heal.

This isn’t just another call. It’s a private, sacred space to finally speak the truth you’ve been carrying. We’ll explore what really led to the betrayal (whether it was an affair, an emotional entanglement, or a moment of self-abandonment), where you’re feeling stuck now, and what’s possible when you stop punishing yourself and start choosing you.

If we both feel it’s a fit, I’ll guide you toward one of two paths:
 1:1 coaching for deep, personalised healing (currently waiting list only)
• Or The Healed Heart™, my intimate 6-month group program grounded in sisterhood, softness, and emotional freedom

There’s no pressure, just an honest, compassionate conversation about where you are, what you need, and what your next chapter could look like. You don’t have to keep hiding. You don’t have to carry this alone.


The healing starts when you choose yourself

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