Maybe you crossed a line. Maybe your relationship is over. Maybe you’re still trying to work out what you want to do next.
Since the affair, your mind won’t switch off. You replay the same conversations and go back and forth on what you should have done or said. You can feel clear for a while, and then suddenly you’re right back in the guilt again.
Some mornings it’s there before you even open your eyes, that heaviness sitting on your chest.
This part doesn’t get talked about much, does it? What happens after. The in-between. The not knowing. That stretch of time where nothing feels resolved but life keeps moving anyway.
The Sanctuary is a steady place inside that space.
I’m not here to fix everything or push you toward a decision you’re not ready for. This is somewhere you can land while things are still messy, somewhere that helps slow the spirals, let your body settle, and remind you that you don’t have to carry it alone.
The Sanctuary
The Sanctuary is a steady, ongoing space for women living in the aftermath of an affair.
If the initial shock has passed but the overthinking hasn't, this is where you land. We meet live twice a month for gentle, grounding sessions. The kind where your body finally exhales.
You'll also have:
• A private library of calming, body-based practices for the days you can't find your footing
• A private podcast where I speak more deeply into this season (the parts no one else talks about)
• A space with other women who get it, walking through the same aftermath
Over time, the spirals get shorter. You pause instead of reacting. You feel steadier, even when life still feels up in the air.
This isn't deep transformation work, it's the steady ground you need before anything else can shift.
And you don't have to do it alone.
Enter the SanctuaryYou’re not alone
You’re carrying the guilt and the shame and the confusion, all of it in fact, and you don’t know who feels safe enough to talk to.
You can listen to all the podcasts, read all the books, understand the psychology of it, and still feel like no one in your actual life really gets what this feels like.
That’s what The Sanctuary is for.
It’s a place where you don’t have to downplay what you’re carrying. Where your body doesn’t have to stay on high alert. Where you’re with other women who understand because they’re living through their own version of it too.
Something shifts when you stop holding it alone.
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The Sanctuary Experience
The Sanctuary isn’t a course to work through or something else to keep up with. There’s nothing to tick off a list, and no deadlines.
We keep the structure simple so it fits around real, busy life.
This is a place where you don’t have to hold yourself together so tightly. You can land here when the emotions feel too much, instead of pushing them down or spiralling.The noise in your head begins to ease, and your body softens.
Over time, you may find yourself speaking more honestly without immediately blaming yourself, and making decisions from a calmer place instead of from fear.
It’s steady support while you find your footing again.
What's Included
We meet live twice a month. You don't to prepare anything and there is no pressure to share unless you want to.
Between sessions, you'll have access to a private library of body-based practices, meditations, and journaling prompts for the heavier days.
You'll also get a private weekly podcast, occasional guest conversations, and a small group of women who understand what you're carrying.
The Softening Sessions
Once a month, we meet for a guided Softening Session.
It's a steady place to land when the world feels loud and your mind won't stop spinning, especially when you've been living in your head and just need somewhere soft to rest.
These sessions help you step out of the overthinking and back into your body. We move slowly. There's nothing to achieve here, nothing to perfect, nothing to push through. Just space for the tightness you've been carrying to finally loosen its grip.
As we go, something shifts. The mental noise begins to quiet. Your breathing slows. Your shoulders drop. You remember what it feels like to just be.
Each session is recorded and saved in your private library, so you can return to it whenever your nervous system needs that steady, grounding support.
The Gathering
Each month, we meet for 90 minutes to come together and sit with what's actually happening in your life right now.
You’ll be alongside other women who get it because they’re navigating their own version of this too.
For many, this is the first place they stop feeling like the worst person in the room.
The structure is simple. I guide the space, offer reflections, and respond to what’s coming up in real time. You’re welcome to speak, share a little, or just listen. There’s no pressure to show up in any particular way, and you won’t be put on the spot.
Some sessions are quieter. Some feel more emotional. Either way, you leave feeling less alone in it.
Each Gathering is recorded and saved in your private library, so you can return whenever you need the reminder: you’re not the only one carrying this.
The Private Library
Each month, new resources are added to your private library - steady, grounded support you can reach for when your system feels overloaded and you need something that genuinely helps.
Inside, you’ll find:
• A short teaching (usually under 20 minutes)
• A guided meditation
• A body-based practice
• A weekly private podcast shaped around the real questions coming up inside the membership
These are for the mornings you wake up already anxious and the moments when you’re spiralling and need something to hold onto without adding more to your plate.
Over time, you’ll build a small collection of practices that start to feel familiar - tools you actually know how to use. Something you can return to when your thoughts won’t stop racing and your body feels like it’s holding everything too tightly.
Nothing here requires you to be consistent or keep up with some imaginary standard.
It’s simply steady support. You use it when you need it. That’s it.
The Sisterhood
Healing doesn't just happen on the live calls. It happens in between - in the painful decisions, the 2am thoughts, the moments when something hits and you don't know who to tell.
The private Telegram group is there for that.
It's somewhere you can say what's actually happening without tidying it up first. You don't have to explain yourself perfectly or make it sound reasonable. You can just... say it and be met by women who get it, who are deep in their own version of it too.
Over time, something shifts. You'll read a message from someone else and think I thought I was the only one who felt that way. You'll type something out and realise how much lighter you feel just saying it out loud.
That's what happens here.
After an affair, so much of this gets carried in silence. The shame. The confusion. The longing you're not supposed to still have.
You don't have to carry it in silence here.
The Sanctuary Private Podcast
Each week, you’ll receive a short private podcast episode (around 15–20 minutes), created just for the women inside The Sanctuary.
There’s a private space where you can share what’s coming up for you - a question, a situation, a feeling you can’t get out of your head, or something you don’t know how to say anywhere else.
Each week, I choose one of those and respond to it in a podcast episode.
These episodes are for the moments when you need someone to help you slow the spiral, understand what you’re feeling, or remember you’re not losing your mind.
All episodes are saved in your private library, so you can listen whenever you need that steady voice in your ear.
Guest Sessions & Special Workshops
At different points during the year, I bring in a few trusted voices to speak into areas that can feel especially heavy to carry alone.
Sometimes that’s money. Sometimes it’s relationships, self-worth, single motherhood, grief, or the bigger questions that surface after everything falls apart.
These sessions are chosen based on what’s actually coming up inside the group, the things many of you are struggling with.
You’ll always know ahead of time what’s coming, so you can join live or watch the replay later.
They’re there to widen the support around you when something feels particularly difficult, so you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.
Is this space for me?
The Sanctuary is for you if the affair itself is over, even if nothing feels settled yet.
You might still be in your relationship. You might’ve left. Or maybe you’re holding a truth you’re not ready to speak out loud yet.
Either way, life’s moved on around you. But something inside you hasn’t.
You’re not in full crisis anymore, but you’re not at peace either. You’re functioning. Getting through the days. Making dinner. Showing up to work. And underneath all of it, you’re just… tired of carrying this alone.
You’ve talked it through with the same few people who’ll listen. You’ve explained yourself until the words lost meaning. You’ve replayed every moment in your head more times than you can count, and it still sits in your chest when you wake up.
If you’re past the explosion but still living with the aftermath…
If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through it…
If you want somewhere you don’t have to perform, justify, or convince anyone you’re handling it…
The Sanctuary was made for exactly this.
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Still Not Sure?
That makes sense.
Most women who find their way here aren’t certain. They’re not having a clear “yes” moment. They’re usually just tired, and quietly wondering if there’s somewhere they don’t have to keep holding everything together.
You might recognise yourself if:
• You often feel like you’re somehow too much and not enough at the same time
• You’re carrying guilt for something you can’t undo, even though you’ve thought it through a thousand times
• You want support, but the idea of being seen still feels risky
• Your mind keeps looping and you don’t know how to get out of it
You don’t need all of this to be true.
You don’t even need to know what you want yet.
If one of these lands, that’s enough.
This space isn’t for women who feel ready.
It’s for women who are still figuring out how to live with what’s happened, and don’t want to do that part alone.
"...I have done a lot of therapy and personal development work, but after my affair I didn’t feel safe anywhere to be fully seen and let the full truth of my story be known. That changed when I started working with Alex, and it was a huge exhale for my soul. Alex is the most compassionate and skilled space holder I’ve ever worked with. She helps us navigate the most vulnerable and hurt parts of ourselves with love, honesty, and complete non-judgment... There is no one doing this work like Alex — if you’re recovering from an affair, it’s the greatest gift you can give yourself."
~Maya
The truth is… nothing changes unless something changes.
If you don’t have a safe space to process all of this slowly, safely, and without judgment, your nervous system will keep looping the same stories.
The shame stays stuck.
The guilt digs deeper into your body.
The overthinking keeps you spinning.
And the longer you wait to be supported... the harder it becomes to ask for help.
The Sanctuary is here to interrupt that.
It’s not just a support space, it’s a chance to stop the cycle and begin healing.
Don’t wait until you collapse to give yourself what you need. Let this be the moment you choose a different ending.
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£277/month | Three-month minimum
The Sanctuary is more than a membership...it's a space for long-term healing. For £277/month, you get:
• Twice-monthly live calls where you can arrive as you are, no pressure to share.
• Softening Sessions that provide deep body-based support and healing.
• The private sisterhood that offers an understanding community of women who are walking through the same process.
• Full access to the private member portal, including meditations, journaling prompts, private podcasts and body-based practices tailored to support you through every phase of your healing.
This isn’t something you dip in and out of. It’s ongoing support to help you live with the aftermath of the affair and its effects, allowing your nervous system to settle, creating the space for healing to happen naturally.
Three months is the minimum, as that gives you enough time to feel the support consistently, build trust with the space and the women inside, and truly see the changes in how you handle your emotions, your body, and your life.
After the first three months, you can stay for as long as it continues to feel right for you - no pressure, just ongoing, grounding support.
We meet live twice a month on the second and fourth Thursday at 8pm GMT.
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F.A.Q.s
I’m working with a therapist – can The Sanctuary help me?
Yes. Many women are doing both.
Therapy can be a place to talk things through, make sense of the past, and understand what happened. The Sanctuary supports you in the day-to-day reality of living with it - the moments when the shame spikes, the thoughts spiral, or your body feels on edge and you don’t know where to put it all.
This isn’t a replacement for therapy, and it’s not trying to do the same thing. It’s a space where you’re supported in how you’re actually feeling now, and where you don’t have to carry that alone.
For many women, having both feels grounding: somewhere to think things through, and somewhere to be held while you live your life in the middle of it.
Do I have to speak or have my camera on?
No. You never have to speak or turn your camera on.
You’re welcome to come exactly as you are - tired, quiet, unsure, or just listening. Many women begin that way.
Over time, some find that letting themselves be seen, even briefly, feels supportive. But that’s something that happens naturally, not something that’s expected or encouraged before you’re ready.
There’s no pressure here. You decide how you show up, every time.
Can I join if I am still in the affair?
Not yet. The Sanctuary is for women who are in the aftermath. When you’re still in the affair, your nervous system is in survival mode, and this kind of work often feels confusing, overwhelming, or destabilising rather than supportive. You’re not doing anything wrong, and you’re not being judged. You simply need a different kind of support at this stage.
Once the affair has ended, emotionally or physically, and you’re ready to begin the healing process, this space will be here to hold you.
How long does The Sanctuary last?
You’ll be with us for a minimum of three months, in order to create the time needed for your nervous system enough time to settle, soften, and actually feel held. No two journeys are the same; you might stay for a little while, or choose to remain in The Sanctuary for longer. It is an ongoing space you can join or leave at any time after the first 3 months.
I am scared of people finding out. Is this totally confidential?
Yes. This is a private and confidential space.
What’s shared inside The Sanctuary - on calls, in the community, or in the Telegram group - stays inside The Sanctuary. Every woman enters with a clear understanding around confidentiality, and the space is intentionally kept contained and protected.
You also get to control how visible you are. You’re welcome to use your initials, keep your camera off, and share only what feels safe for you. There is no expectation to disclose more than you’re ready for.
This is a place where you don’t have to worry about being exposed.
You get to move at your own pace, in your own way.
Will I have access to you?
Yes. I personally host both live calls each month, so you’ll be in direct space with me in real time.
Between calls, you can share questions or what’s coming up for you in the Q&A thread. Each week, I record a private podcast responding to what feels most alive and relevant for the group as a whole.
I won’t be able to respond to every question one-on-one, but nothing disappears into the void here. The themes, the patterns, the things women are carrying, they’re held and spoken to.
You’re not left alone with this between sessions, and you’re not expected to figure it all out by yourself.
What if I'm still obsessed with my affair partner even though it's over?
That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, and it doesn’t disqualify you from being here.
For many women, the attachment doesn’t end when the relationship does. What’s left can feel consuming - the longing, the grief, the unfinished feelings, the questions that won’t go away.
The Sanctuary is a place where that can be met, without shame or pressure to “move on.” It’s a space to begin understanding what you’re still holding, and to let that attachment soften in its own time, rather than trying to force yourself past it.
You don’t have to be over anything to belong here. You just need somewhere you don’t have to carry it alone.
What if I’m not in a relationship anymore?
You’re still welcome here.
The Sanctuary isn’t about fixing or saving a relationship. It’s about being supported as you find your footing again, especially after something that changed you.
Whether you’re single now, between chapters, or still making sense of what you want next, this space is here to help you reconnect with yourself and feel steadier in who you are becoming.
There’s no pressure to know what comes next. This space is here while you find your bearings again.
Will other women judge me?
No. Everyone here carries some version of the same story. There’s no hierarchy of “good” or “bad.” Just women who know what it feels like to be human and hurting and still choosing to heal
Will the calls be recorded?
Yes. Although coming live is recommended if you can, it's not a problem if you can't as all calls, private podcasts and guest speakers will be recorded and can be found on the private portal.
About Alex
Hi, I’m Alex Croxford. I work with women in the aftermath of their own betrayal - the part that comes after the affair is over, when life is carrying on but the emotional weight hasn’t lifted yet.
I know this landscape because I’ve lived it myself. Years ago, I was the woman who cheated, carrying guilt in my body every day and trying to function on the outside while feeling deeply unsettled inside. My marriage ended, some relationships changed, and I lost my sense of who I was for a long time.
What I came to understand, slowly, was that beneath everything was a lifetime of being the strong one who didn’t know how to feel or ask for support. My affair wasn’t about a lack of values or care; it was a breaking point that showed me how disconnected I had become from my body, my needs, and my emotional truth.
Since then, I’ve trained in somatic and relational work and trauma-informed approaches, but more than any qualification, what shapes this work is lived experience. I know what it’s like to sit with shame, panic, grief, and the long, uneven process of rebuilding a sense of self, and that’s where I meet the women I work with.
The Sanctuary is the space I wish I’d had back then - a steady, compassionate place to land, to be honest without being rushed, and to slowly reconnect with yourself in a way that feels safe and sustainable.
I’m here to walk alongside you through this part, with care, clarity, and no expectation that you need to be anywhere other than where you are right now.
