why you cheated
A 3-day online workshop for women healing after their own affair
Begin letting go of the guilt and shame, understand yourself more deeply, and start feeling like yourself again.
three live WORKSHOPs
why you cheated
21st, 22nd, and 23rd September · 5pm-6.30pm BST
£37 + VAT (approx $50 USD)
Taxes added automatically at checkout
7 day replay included
This is for you if…
You’ve hurt someone you loved and you don’t know who you are any more.
You feel ashamed, guilty, confused, and perhaps even numb, which somehow makes you feel worse.
You wake up and the dread still sits heavy on your chest.
You can’t make a decision about what you want next because you’re terrified of making another mistake.
You’ve thought about what happened over and over, but you’re still asking, “How did I actually get here?”
And more than anything, you just want to feel like yourself again.
“I came in thinking I was going to wear the scarlet letter. Walk around with cheater on my forehead. And now I’m able to be a little kinder to myself about where I was at when I had the affair”
You’re not a monster.
But the guilt & shame is making you believe you are.
Over the three days, I’ll guide you through practical exercises to help you meet yourself in a way that actually helps you move forward, rather than staying stuck in your own head.
We’ll work with the shame, guilt and numbness you may be carrying, so you can begin understanding yourself more deeply and start feeling more like yourself again.
And these three days are where that starts.
“I honestly forgot we were even in the group because of affairs. I thought I was just on a healing journey. Like, what do you mean we had affairs? Oh, right. But that’s just where it all started”
the three days
day one
UNDERSTANDING Why You Cheated
You cannot heal while you're using all your energy to punish yourself.
Day 1 is about understanding the difference between taking responsibility for what you did and punishing yourself for it forever. I’ll show you how shame can keep you stuck, then guide you through a practice to help you stay with the guilt, grief and self-loathing without being completely swallowed by them. And if you feel numb, we will work with that too. So instead of using all your energy attacking yourself, you can begin using it to heal and move forward.
day two
How to stop drowning in SHAME
Because the affair may be where everything blew up, but it's rarely where the pattern began.
Day 2 is about looking underneath the affair so you can begin making more sense of how you got here. We’ll explore some of the beliefs and patterns that may have been shaping your choices long before this happened, including the things you were suppressing, avoiding or struggling to understand in yourself. You’ll begin getting closer to the root of what was playing out, so that awful question of “what is wrong with me?” can start to loosen and make room for more clarity, self-understanding and self-forgiveness.
day three
How to FEEL LIKE YOURSELF AGAIN
There is more to you than the woman who had the affair, and this is where we start to meet her.
On the final day, I’ll help you begin finding your way back to yourself. We’ll look at how to reconnect with what you actually feel, need and want, see the patterns that have been shaping your choices, and begin recognising when you’re starting to lose yourself again. You’ll start to meet the version of you who feels more like herself, more grounded and clearer about who she is, so you can begin moving forward with more self-understanding and more trust in the choices you make from here.
“I kind of trust the person I am now to recognise the signs for anything that would lead up to that again in a future relationship”
what’s included
£37 + VAT
Taxes added automatically at checkout
Make sense of how you got here.
Begin to break free from the cycle of shame.
Take the first steps towards trusting yourself again.
Three live 90-minute sessions on Monday 21st, Tuesday 22nd and Wednesday 23rd September at 5pm BST
A 7-day video replay, available until midnight BST on Wednesday 30th September. The replay will only include my recording, so your face and voice won’t appear in it.
A workbook with journaling prompts and supportive practices to use throughout the three days and afterwards
A private Telegram space, open from 9am BST on Monday 21st September until midnight BST on Friday 25th September, so you don’t have to move through this alone
“Never in a million years would I have imagined, even six months ago with how I felt about myself, to where I am now. I would never.”
About Alex croxford
Hi, I’m Alex
I spent almost 20 years making TV programmes for Channel 4, Sky, Netflix, BBC and Disney, before building an entire practice around something I couldn't find when I needed it myself: support specifically for women healing after their own affairs.
I know this from my own personal experience, I cheated on my ex-husband within a year of my own marriage, lost that relationship, and rebuilt my life from nothing at 38. I know the shame, the guilt, the numbness, the pain of the unknown, and I also know the bliss, the joy and the love available on the other side of true self-understanding and forgiveness. I've since worked with hundreds of women through exactly what you're facing now
Once you join…
You'll immediately receive your confirmation and everything you need to prepare.
You'll receive the workbook the morning of Day 1.
You'll get access to the private Telegram space when it opens on Monday 21st September.
You can attend live without sharing your story or appearing on the recording.
You never have to share anything you're not comfortable sharing. You're welcome to participate with your camera off, and simply experience the three days for yourself.
“I was so trained to think that everything good was outside of me. Just the learning that the goodness is within me already and the tools I need are within me already, that blows my mind. This feels like the way that will actually work”
“I have access to myself again”
“I’ve also regained my confidence. I love myself more. I can clearly see what I deserve now, and I would never go back to what I once accepted.”
Frequently asked questions
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No. This isn't the right moment for this experience. I'd suggest listening to The Deeper Love Podcast for now. I'll be here when you're ready.
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No, neither matters. Wherever you are, you're in the right place.
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Yes. Only my own camera and voice are in the replay, no one else's face or voice. The Telegram space is closed to this group only.
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Yes, available until Wednesday 30th September at midnight BST. Only my recording, no one else in the group is seen or heard.
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Yes, in the final session on Wednesday.
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Yes, absolutely. It's genuinely complementary, and this isn't therapy.
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Yes, this is very different from standard talking therapy as I will be working on the level of the body & the nervous system.
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Catch up on the replay before it expires. All three matter, and they work best in order.
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Yes absolutely, you can download the free Aftermath Survival Guide and listen to The Deeper Love Podcast
“I tell everybody who knows that I’m in this programme that it’s the best programme I’ve ever done. You’re the best healer I have ever worked with.”
Make sense of how you got here.
Begin to break free from the cycle of shame.
Take the first steps towards feeling like yourself again.
Three live 90-minute sessions on Monday 21st, Tuesday 22nd and Wednesday 23rd September at 5pm BST
A 7-day video replay, available until midnight BST on Wednesday 30th September. The replay will only include my recording, so your face and voice won’t appear in it.
A workbook with journaling prompts and supportive practices to use throughout the three days and afterwards
A private Telegram space, open from 9am BST on Monday 21st September until midnight BST on Friday 25th September, so you don’t have to move through this alone