ep 35: You Don't Trust Yourself. And That's Why You're Stuck
After an affair, so many women become terrified of making the wrong decision.
Not just the big decisions, like whether to stay or leave, whether to tell the truth, or whether to try again.
But the everyday ones too. What to say. Whether to reach out or pull back. Whether to trust what they feel or second guess it.
In this episode, Alex explores why that paralysis happens and what is really sitting underneath it.
Because the issue is not that you are incapable of making good decisions. It is that somewhere along the way, you stopped trusting yourself.
Through a powerful client story about deciding whether to get a puppy, Alex shows how self-trust is rebuilt. Not by finding certainty or making perfect choices, but by knowing you can hold yourself whatever happens next.
This is an episode about the deeper reason so many women stay stuck after an affair and what begins to change when self-abandonment gives way to self-trust.
In This Episode, We Explore:
Why decision-making can feel so heavy after an affair
How overthinking, looping, and paralysis are often rooted in a lack of self-trust
Why the fear is not really making the wrong decision, but not trusting yourself to handle the outcome
The deeper link between affair trauma and a lifetime of self-abandonment
How one woman moved out of indecision through a simple but powerful choice
Why self-trust is not about certainty, perfection, or never making mistakes
What freedom looks like when you know you can hold yourself through whatever comes next
If This Resonated:
The Healed Heart is Alex's 6-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.
Inside, the work is not about endlessly analysing every decision or trying to get everything right. It is about rebuilding self-trust, healing shame, and learning how to hold yourself through the uncertainty.
The next round begins 28th April.
